How To Save Black America and 142 More Tips For Strengthening The Black Family – Part I.
For my people and for all those who know that the future is ours to create.
by Darryl L. Mobley
Early in my entrepreneurial life as a magazine publisher, I was often asked to speak at events. And, given the fact that the magazine I started was designed to appeal to family- and relationship-oriented Black Americans, I was often asked to speak about relationships & parenting. I would decline virtually every request because of a habit of doing my work and letting the results stand for themselves. Friends have suggested it is rooted in some sort of shyness on my part. I don’t know.
But times change and the needs of the people my media company serve have intensified. As a graduate of West Point, I am well aware that I must not shy away from the action. I must march to the sounds of the guns. And so, I began to accept more speaking requests on the subjects that matter most to me: family, parenting and relationships.
I decided that all of my speeches would reflect my true feelings and observations. I also determined that I would always leave my audience and the individuals I encountered knowing exactly how I felt about them.
I recently found myself a speaker at another major event. I chose to speak on Saving the Black Family – the subject that I have received the most emails, letters and calls about over the past several years. I felt this subject had an urgent need for answers and leadership.
The speech received so much positive energy from the audience that I was somewhat taken aback. I could feel the vibes as I spoke. I was interrupted by applause throughout this sharing of my ideas; and the standing ovations suggested to me that I was doing some good.
After I left the stage I was peppered with requests for copies of my speech. And I have been asked by all manner of people – women and men, grandmothers, married women, single moms, unmarried women with no children, young single men, grandfathers, fathers, unmarried fathers, college aged young adults, high school kids, and incarcerated brothers & sisters – to give the speech at other events. This I gladly do. I also had the speech turned into a best-selling book.
But, I know that I can never touch as many people through speeches or a book as I can through dissemination of the words in a vehicle that allows individuals to capture and process my presentation in their own time and space.
FamilyDigest.com is the vehicle through which I can reach millions of folks – just like you!
I hope that after you read my-speech-that-became-a-book you begin or continue taking action to strengthen your family, your key relationships, and our community. This is where the action is. Here is where the guns are sounding for Black America. Let’s march forward together!
Darryl L. Mobley, Publisher – Family Digest
“If we have the courage and tenacity of our forebears, who stood firmly like a rock against the lash of slavery, we shall find a way to do for our day what they did for theirs.”
My name is Darryl Mobley. I am a husband and a father. I am also founder of Family Digest Magazine – Black America’s No. 1 family & relationship magazine, and creator and host of The Family Digest TV Show.
My time – both personal and professional – is consumed by this mission: Helping to create Smarter, Healthier and Happier Black families.
Why is this my mission? Because I have studied our community and it is clear to me that if we don’t fix our families and relationships – soon! – then we as a group will be irreparably broken. I don’t want that to happen.
2. If We Knew Better…
“You’ve got to keep learning son. I know you can do it.”
Now, of those of you with your hands up, keep them up if you already know everything there is to know about keeping your family and relationships Smarter, Healthier and Happier. Okay…you all with your hands still up are from another planet!
It would be real nice if they could teach us in school how to have great relationships and families. I can make a case that it’s one of the most important things we could learn.
Here are two things I do know – no one is born knowing how to get into or stay in a great relationship; and no one comes out of the womb already knowing how to be a great parent. If you were lucky, you grew up in a household where everything was perfect and you learned just what to do when you started dating, got married and had children. For the rest of us – the learning is on-the-job.I am on a crusade to strengthen the Black family. I want you to join me because it is so important that we get our families right, and soon! I want to use this website, my books and my newsletters to take the mystery out of what it takes to be a great father and husband, wife and mother. My belief: If We Knew Better, We’d Do Better!
Your Action Steps
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3. History Teaches. The Future Calls.
“…the grand aim of slavery… is to reduce man to a level with the brute. It is a successful method of obliterating from the mind and heart of the slave, all just ideas sacredness of the family…”
Just about one hundred and fifty years ago, Abraham Lincoln signed into law the Emancipation Proclamation. Why? Because Negroes were slaves in this country and this fact ran counter to the principles on which this nation was founded.
Roughly fifty years ago, Martin Luther King Jr. gave his “I Have A Dream” speech. Why? Because America had not yet lived up to the promise of freedom for all of its citizens.
This year – the crusade to save our families begins and we all must join in the fight. We must all be in the battle to save our future, our culture, our people, our community, our families, our kids and ourselves.
Do I sound dramatic? I hope so!
I will share a few statistics that I think you want to know, and to make sure that you know what I know as we embark on this crusade together.
Your Action Steps
Write Down 5 Steps You Will Take
4. The Truth Will Set Us Free!
“Truth burns up error.”
Less than a third of Black families are headed by married couples? And…
Children from our broken and never formed homes are:
- 5 times more likely to commit suicide;
- 32 times more likely to run away;
- 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders;
- 14 times more likely to commit rape;
- 9 times more likely to drop out of school;
- 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances;
- 9 times more likely to end up in a state operated institution; and
- 20 times more likely to end up in prison.
Well – Now you know!
No surprise – next I want to speak with you about Strengthening Our Families & Relationships: Men, Women and Children.
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